I am married to an amazing man we celebrated our 9 year anniversarry in April. We have 6 amazing children 4 here on earth with us and 2 angels in heaven (Kael who passed away at 5 months 3 weeks old and an early miscarriage baby at 7 weeks old. Just taking life one day at a time. Never take anything for granted!
With Kaels condition Layne and I had to make many decisions before Kael even passed away. Ill never forget the drive home from the hospital one night and discussing the heart wrenching decisions that we had made earlier that day with the pillative care team at Primary Childrens. When Kael was born right away it was a whirl wind for us but I knew after he was born and whisked away when Layne came over to me to hold me and we cried together we would be ok. Now of course woman and men grieve differently so after Kael passed away sometimes it was tough... I couldnt stop talking about it and sometimes it was to hard for Layne. Layne was able to talk at Kaels funeral but it was to hard for me. We both helped dress Kael at the funeral home and we sat on the couch holding him together crying for over a hour together. The best thing we could do was be there for each other. As time went on at night we would hold each other and cry till we both fell asleep. Layne started feeling like he needed to be the strong one for us so he reserved his feelings much more than I was able. I didnt want to step on his toes even though for the longest time it bothered me that he couldnt talk about Kael like I could I quickly found out through other grieving mothers that it was very common and to not worry. Layne expressed several times that he thinks of Kael often but that he doesnt need to talk about it. Once I got over that I was just grateful that Layne was and still is so supportive of the things I want to do to keep Kaels memory alive. We remember him together and grieve him in the ways we feel best. But one thing is for sure we both know we love and miss Kael and we will always work together to honor him. Loosing a child can for sure be a strain on your marriage but with hard work and acceptance of the way each other need to grieve it can work. Sometimes talking to someone else can help to if you need to talk and your partner can not. Friends come in very handy during this time. The most important thing I can say is keep your communication open always and try to be understanding of how the other person needs to grieve. We were not perfect by any means but we did learn and I can say grew a ton.We continue to work daily at this grief thing and I am sure we have much more growing to do. Dont forget when times seem the hardest dont forget to lean on the lord he will help you. And when it feels like hes not there dont give up on him he will help to carry you. Dont forget if you want to link up you can do so here http://blog.sufficientgraceministries.org/category/walking-with-you/
04-12-08 to 10-04-08 Such a sweet boy and is missed every day! Not a day goes by that we dont think of Kael. We are living our lives the best as possible in hopes to be together with him again one day.
Daxton 7 such a sweet little boy!! He is in the 2nd grade and so smart. He stuns me everyday with the things that he knows and is learning. He is so loving, patient and calm. We are lucky to call him our own.
Stefon is 6. Hes very sweet but can be mischevious as well! He is in the first grade this year and is excelling at school. We love him to pieces.
Landon our rainbow baby. He turned 3 on the 12 of August. He is so sweet and has such a spunky personality. He melts my heart and has brought some sunshine back into our lives.
Tiara joined our family 4/2/13 she is so sweet and the perfect little addition. We love her so much and thank god every day for her!!